Struggles

Overcoming challenges requires immense will power and determination. I have faced many tough challenges, but the most difficult has been being able to forgive my mom. A mother should give to her child tenderness, maternal love, and protecting care. My mom failed to follow the definition of a caregiver.

My story begins in the fall of August 2004; I was molested by my step father. I told my mom about what had happen and she refused to believe me. She told me that I was trying to separate her from my step dad because I wanted her to get back with my father. At that moment in time I felt the world was coming down on me, and it wasn’t going to get any better. I couldn’t believe that my own mother would say that to me. I thought she was the mother that is defined in every dictionary. Being denied that comfort that I needed was the worst feeling ever. I wouldn’t wish that to any enemy of mine. I was torn from the inside. Every time I would remember it brought more pain than the next thought I had.

I immediately informed my sisters about what had happen to me. They instantly removed me from my mother’s home and I began to live with my oldest sisters. Living with my sisters was not an easy thing to do, but I had to adjust. It was uncomfortable at one point but they are my sisters and I need their help. Since that day I knew that I had to grow up on my own. I began to work for a company called hub cities. The money I would earn would be the money I lived off of. Even though I lived with my sisters that didn’t mean they would give me money for every little thing I needed. Ever since that situation happened my sisters became my new mothers.

From that day on I didn’t speak to my mother. It was so difficult for me because I was extremely hurt. My sisters encouraged me to talk to her, but I needed my own time to reflect. As timed passed I thought about the pros and cons if I would begin to talk to my mom. I realized that I needed to forgive her. Ever since I was small I was taught to forgive others because it makes you a better person and in return we receive an untold peace and happiness. I was aware that her actions were unethical, but after all she is my mother. Planning is an important part of everything I do, so I thought about how I would first approach her. I needed to be the leader I was growing up to be and set an example. I began to talk to her the summer of 2005; little by little we began to build on our communication skills. We were beginning to building unity in a time of change.

I learned in order to overcome challenges we need a positive attitude, a positive mind and the right amount of determination and will power. Along with this we need to see that the many challenges in which we face are similar to a range of mountains. There is no way around them, and no short cuts to be taken. We have to climb each mountain to be able to move forward in order to reach our goals.